Inaccurate and stigmatising articles and advertising have contributed to many of us having a lot of negative beliefs related to herpes that make it difficult to convince ourselves that others would want to be with us.
It takes a lot more than the occasional aggravation of herpes to destroy a sound relationship. If your partner is unable to accept the facts about herpes, encourage him or her to speak with a medical expert or counsellor. They will respect the trust you demonstrate in sharing a personal confidence with them.
The discussion could take place anywhere you feel safe and comfortable. Avoid negative words and keep the dialogue simple and factual: “I found out two years ago that I have herpes. This way it seems more natural, there’s no time to get nervous, and you’re not making it into a bigger deal than it is.
Some people turn off the TV, take the phone off the hook, and broach the subject over a quiet dinner at home. With more and more singles talking about ‘safe sex’ and HIV/AIDS, these opportunities come up fairly frequently.
Many people do not feel comfortable talking about sexuality and sexual health issues.
This pamphlet will explore ways of feeling more confident in discussing herpes in the context of a sexual relationship.