Anthea Fisher, 22, a project manager in finance, began a relationship on Instagram with someone she had known peripherally.“We liked each other’s stuff from time to time,” she said.When men meet him IRL, they are surprised to find that his real-life personality is not as exaggerated as his Instagram persona.“It’s a two-dimensional platform, which inherently means we can’t see everything.In some cases, rather than serving as a conduit for an attraction, Instagram is a reminder of what is gone. Forgione began dating his current flame, his ex-boyfriend started paying a lot of attention to his Stories and his feed.“The level of him creeping on me was out of control, to the point that he texted asking me, ‘Who is your new boyfriend? “The guy I’m seeing has posted things about me and just from him doing that and tagging me, I’ve seen on my Stories guys who follow him looking at my stuff,” he said.Some of them use Instagram for their businesses; some for sharing photos of their kids; and some for distributing memes about hungover mornings and overeating.
Unfortunately, Instagram is not all romance and daisies.
“It’s basically a portfolio for your dating life,” said Halen Yau, 31, a public relations manager from Toronto.
Not only does Instagram provide a visually driven collage of your life, it also offers a subtle way of expressing interest through likes and comments, and connecting in the form of a private chat.
The goal for many was to figure out that all-consuming question: Does my crush like me as much as I like them?
Their experiments yielded mixed results, and Instagram will likely keep the algorithm under lock and key until the end of time.