This was a very interesting article for me to read. I’m not sure how sincere it was now from one of them, but from the others I believe they were sincere and that has helped my confidence level even more.
I grew up with my older sister constantly calling me “dumb, stupid, and ugly.” Because of an eye problem, I believed it and developed very low self-esteem. So much so that I finally feel strong enough not to let men take advantage of me.
It isn’t going to go to my head.” You know, a lot depends on how and when it’ said. (But that doesn’t mean if it’s passed off in a charming way by a charming man, I’m not going to smile and thank him.) Like many women, though, I often find compliments heard to accept. But I want to ask you all — how often do you compliment your date on something, whether it’s his clothes, smile, eyes, etc.
(and, after you’ve been intimate, his well, ya know.
But alas, his thinking (or at least saying) I was gorgeous was not enough to keep him around after three dates. Intellectually we know that it only matters that think we are attractive, and what others think isn’t our concern.
But deep down we also like to know that the person we are dating finds us attractive and is able to express that genuinely.
His actions — minimal as they were — should speak for themselves. Or he never learned to express himself to a woman in a way that would make her feel good.
Upon sitting down for dinner with another man for a first encounter, he looked at me, paused, and said, “You’re .” I smiled and said, “Thank you.” That was the last time I heard it for several months. That feels good to hear.” He said, “I don’t tell beautiful women they are beautiful.” When I asked, “Why not?
But if he tells you sincerely and regularly, somehow it makes more attractive too!
As I discussed in “He had me from ‘You’re gorgeous!
’” I was enamored with this guy from the get-go, but his salutation was only part of the enticing package.
He doesn’t want a woman to think he has fallen for her based only on her looks, so then can be led around by his nose.
When some women know a man is ga-ga for her, they use it to manipulate him. And of course, men can use these compliments as a “line” to get closer to you.